Why Do We Care So Much What Others Think?

The Simple Reason(s) Behind This Common Behaviour

You may have felt it a few times, but might not know how or where to go after falling into this behavior: the conformity to society’s or other people’s opinions and beliefs.

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As a child, we often put back our authentic selves in order to fit into the boxes that our parents and society put on us, because if we always were ourselves, the “chance of survival or ” for a child is (or was) much lower, evolutionarily speaking.

But someday, somewhere in your life, you deeply feel that you are not really at a place you want to be because maybe you didn’t or couldn’t stand up for yourself, in order to make others feel fulfilled and happy.

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Maybe you ask others when you are making a big decision to make this decision for you. You get different opinions from friends, family etc., mix them together, and then see this as “your” opinion. 

But did you ask yourself about this decision? 

Did you feel what actually felt right for you, even if others might also have had a point in their opinion? Maybe you felt what was right for you the whole time.

Maybe you needed confirmation from others that what you felt is actually real and your true opinion. 

I don’t think this is a problem. But depending on the opinions of others and losing yourself in those opinions can be.

I mean, that’s what worked in your childhood. You couldn’t physically stand up for yourself, so you took on the beliefs of the closest ones around you. 

Others might view others as tools for their own personal gain because they also deeply lack a fulfilling sense of self, and therefore have to manipulate others to fix this wound. 

Either polarity is based on lack or fear. I mean, you can’t always stand up for yourself.. not in every situation, and not if the other person is stronger than you. 

But someday in your life, you can. Society is far enough that more people can indeed stand up for themselves much more without fearing rejection, etc. 

Don’t work, do, or buy stuff which only fills a hole. 

Because all the people you do this for might also have this insecurity. 

For example, when you have to buy stuff from a famous clothing brand to stand out and prove to your friends that you are worth it for them, and they leave you if you are unworthy in such a case, then they might be the wrong friends to begin with and also have this core wound a lot of people in society have.

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But from a philosophical viewpoint, don’t you need to lose yourself to find out who you really are?

Don’t you need to be dependent on the opinions of others in order to slowly find back to who you truly are?

Is the constant cycle of losing oneself, of finding oneself not a natural part of life? Tell me your opinion in the comments!

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Do not get too focused on finding yourself, for you are already here. You already are you. Do not search too much, because your true self isn’t that special, and yet, at the same time, It is. 

You already know your opinion. 

But Sometimes it’s deeper than the surface of your thinking.

If you have clarity, you know what the next step is. 

If not, go do things that make you think and feel clearer. I have many posts on that…

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