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Right now enoughness to me is not feeling like I have to constantly reassure myself that I'm doing the right thing. Trying to remember that some times slow is fast and not everything needs to be done in "speedrun" fashion.

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Yes, thats what I am still learning too! What makes you feel like you are doing the right thing and what makes you feel like you dont?

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That's a hard question. The first thought that popped into my head is that the more I have to think about doing something the less likely it is to be right.

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I like that. When we overthink, we actually often move away from the main issue / the root cause. (Which may be our problem solving drive, a limiting belief or something else holding us back)

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Whenever I shop at second hand stores, I tell myself (and it's true!) that I have everything I need. So I only buy things if they're exceptionally wonderful. It's fun finding treasures.

I wish I could develop the same attitude towards time. I constantly set priorities, and sometimes feel overwhelmed.

Lately I got a lot of things done and it's opened up space for me. That feels really good.

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I feel similar, Diana. Until now, I think I subconsciously had the belief that I lack enough time to do what I want and love. And now, slowly, it's changing! What did you do that gave you the feeling of "getting things done" that felt really good? What did you change?

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We had radon mitigation in the old house we bought, and that involved putting a concrete floor in the cold room, where I had amassed a bunch of canning jars. I put shelves and organized the jars, which were taking up another room. When that was completed I was able to burn through some other stuff. I always seem to manage to be pretty busy.

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...which doesnt have to be a bad thing:) cleaning spaces can be very fulfilling! Also plan to clean and reorder my room next week. Btw I saw you have a lot of ideas in the eco-niche. Do you think you would fit into a slack community I built called "mindful collaborations" to help and share your vision(s)? (If so, I wrote a post about how to join I would gladly share with you)

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My issue is time, Tobias. I spend way too much time online, and have lots to do offline as well. But still, it sounds tempting...

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Sure, no problem! Wish you good luck and power to spend your time in any moment for the things you love and care about.

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Thanks for your understanding, Tobias. If you think anyone in your slack group might appreciate any of my more environmental posts, feel free to share them.

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Enoughness is a strange concept for an entrepreneur tbh.

Oh, the irony: a solopreneur wanting to escape the rat race of the hustle culture in corporate/employment work, only to end up in constantly running in a self-made hamster wheel.

(Wait, why am I talking about rodents)

There's always new opportunity to grab, people to contact, emails to reply, invitations to be sent out . . .

As an employee, my day is done when the working hour is done (with some stretch here and there given the creative work). But the general culture is understood that people have life outside work, so it's accepted if your team member doesn't respond to your Slack channel outside a certain window.

But as an entrepreneur, I tend to blame myself for not maximising my time outside the working hour.

Why didn't I enrol in that business competition?

Why didn't I contact that person?

Why didn't I write that article better?

I've been struggling with this self-imposed guilt . . . and the only sensible thing to do is to call this state enough, and rest.

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Yes, I understand what you mean. Need to watch myself so I dont fall into this "entrepreneur trap" you are talking about. I recommend the book "buy back your time" in this case.

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Thank you for the book recommendation!

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Excellent points and perspective here, Tobias. I totally feel this and it is an eternal practice for us to stay centered and present. Part of the fun and challenge in this simulation, I suppose. 😂

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Jup, thanks. It's also part of the fun:) Learning, unlearning, growing, relearning, balancing, integrating..I believe it's about enjoying, loving these processes with our full being.

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I've realized that time is a man-made construct and God doesn't operate that way. He told me recently that the weight of the world isn't on my shoulders... so I'm much more chill.

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If you ever do get to enough, you'll discover it plus one dollar and a quarter won't buy you a paper and a cup of coffee. Straight A's, getting to the top of the mountain, and some need to get to more than one, as long as it is not enough, you lose, you need more. Love, happiness, and enough are pretty much the same. When you come from enough, you don't have to go looking for it.

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I really like the last sentence, Michael. That's actually something I fall back on when I catch myself looking for "enough" in all kinds of ways. To take a step back, evaluate if what I do comes from lack, not fulfillment. Love the simplicity of what you wrote.

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The driver of not enough is this, isn't it? Something is wrong here. [with me, it, them] It is always about the past or an imagined future, and the leader of the charge is ego.

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And of course as you say, staying centered in it all. But the center is always with you, you never really lose it in my opinion. Most often it has to do with remembering our center and that it has never left us.

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